Melbourne Mum's Bali Journeys with Disabled Daughter Bring Joy and Community
Nika Lisa, a Melbourne mother, has embarked on a remarkable journey of resilience and happiness by traveling to Bali multiple times a year with her daughter Abby, who has physical and intellectual disabilities. In her own words, Nika recounts how these trips have become a source of profound joy and connection for both of them.
A Life Transformed by Tragedy and Travel
Nika's story began with a honeymoon in Bali in 2000, followed by numerous family holidays after the birth of her three children. However, her life took a dramatic turn in 2019 when she lost her 20-year-old son to a liver disorder, and later that year, she went through a separation and divorce. Left alone to care for Abby, who requires around-the-clock support, Nika realized the importance of living fully in the present.
"These misfortunes made me see that tomorrow isn't promised, and that I had to start living the best possible life I could today," Nika explains. "And that meant spending as much time as possible in Bali, because Bali is where I am happiest and where Abby is happiest, too."
The Healing Power of Bali's Environment
At home in Melbourne, Abby often experiences frustration and anger, but in Bali, her demeanor changes completely. "When we're at home, she gets upset and angry over any old thing and drives me insane. But in Bali, there's none of that. She's so different here. She's really happy," Nika shares.
They typically stay in Legian, a beachside district, renting a villa with a pool that is fully wheelchair and disabled-friendly. Accompanied by a full-time nanny and her nine-year-old daughter, who has formed a beautiful bond with Abby, their setup allows for a supportive and enjoyable experience.
Compassion and Inclusivity from Balinese Locals
Nika emphasizes the incredible compassion of the Balinese people, who go out of their way to assist them. "Every afternoon, I take her to the beach for sunset, and if they see me struggling to cross the road with the wheelchair, people will literally stop their cars and jump out to help," she says. Local businesses have even made accommodations, such as adding a ramp at a friend's restaurant in Legian.
During trips to Lovina in the north, taxi drivers patiently help lift Abby and her wheelchair without complaint, and boat captains assist during dolphin-watching excursions. "In Australia, when we meet people, sometimes they ignore Abby and just talk to me as if she wasn't even there. But here in Bali they talk to her more than me!" Nika notes, highlighting the inclusive attitude that has inspired her to create the Facebook page Abby's Bali Journey, which has garnered over 400 followers.
Advice for Other Families with Disabilities
For parents of children with disabilities considering a trip to Bali but worried about logistics, Nika offers encouraging advice. "I would say just come. People with disabilities benefit from holidays and travel in the same way that people without disabilities do," she asserts.
She recommends bringing a nanny on the first visit to ensure a true holiday experience. "That's a mistake I see many carers make. They work around the clock and never take a break. But if you do that in Bali, it's not a real holiday, it's just a change of scenery," Nika explains. Alternatively, hiring a local nanny in Bali is a viable option, as many have training in caring for children with disabilities.
Through her journeys, Nika Lisa demonstrates how travel can foster happiness, community, and a renewed perspective on life, proving that inclusive adventures are not only possible but deeply rewarding.
