A woman has been left stunned after a man asked her to pay him back for a first date weeks after they met up. The woman said she received the ludicrous text after hearing radio silence from her date for three weeks.
Demand for Payment After Silence
In his text, the man requested repayment for the burger she ate and a drink, since he realized they were not going to work out. 'Thanks for the date, had a great night with you,' the text began. 'I enjoyed the company but after thinking about it, I don't feel we're the right match moving forward, so I think it's best we just split the date and leave it here.'
The date explained that her burger and drink came to $57.95 SGD ($82.57 AUD). He offered to pay for the drinks and offered the woman a discounted rate for the burger.
Text Demands 'Payment Proof'
'You can PayNow or if you don't have PayNow, you can push cash to a friend who has PayNow and ask them to transfer to me,' the text continued. 'Please send me the payment proof once done.'
The dater shared the text to Reddit, writing that he had promised her 'princess treatment' before they met, after they matched on a dating app. She questioned whether she was 'overreacting'.
Public Reaction and Dating Etiquette
A 2025 study found 44 per cent of Aussies believed the bill should be split evenly on a first date, while two in five said whoever organized the date should cover it. Users rushed to the woman's defense and advised her to block her date's number.
The woman said she received the text almost one month after the date happened. Many said the timeline was the weirdest thing about the message, not the request to split the bill.
'Block him and ignore the message,' wrote one user. 'Wow, that's so tacky and gross that he is asking you to post-pay for a date,' agreed another.
One comment read that they would simply laugh at someone in that situation. 'If you ask someone to go somewhere you've chosen, you're offering it as a date you're paying for, unless you agree to something else from the start,' they said.
'He asked you out, took you to a place he chose, got your number, didn't say a word for three weeks, then sent you a bill? I'd probably laugh so hard I'd snort.'
'If he wanted to split the bill, he should have said so ahead of time or at minimum set the expectation when the bill came,' another user wrote. 'Asking to split the bill three weeks later because you weren't the right match is crazy.'
